Anal sex is sexual intercourse with the anus and rectum. It takes a lot more patience and preparation than vaginal intercourse. It usually doesn’t just happen. Anal sex shouldn’t hurt. However, it can be really painful if you do it too fast, aren’t using lube, or just isn’t done correctly.
The first step in having anal sex is for both partners agree to it. Both partners should be equally into it, or else it’s not going to be enjoyable. The receiving partner needs to be completely relaxed. It’s also important to note that it needs to be slow and gradual. There’s a lot of porn out there that shows the receiving partner getting pounded in the ass, and that’s just not realistic. All in all, an anus is very different from a vagina. It’s not self-lubricating, and it’s much smaller and tighter. Lube is absolutely necessary for anal sex. I have a friend who got a hemorrhoid from anal because her boyfriend didn’t want to use lube.
It’s important to use a condom during anal sex. A lot of time, because anal sex is so slow, many cis partners will switch to vaginal sex to finish. If this is the case, it’s very important to change condoms or remove the condom used for anal. Getting bacteria inside the vagina is bound to result in infection.
You might want to play around with anal play such as a finger or two before jumping straight to anal. If you don’t like a finger up there, my guess is you’re not going to like a dick up there. You can also play around with anal sex toys such as anal beads or butt plugs. They are much smaller and will help you get used to having something inside your anus and get comfortable with that feeling.
This is probably the most important part of the article. It is imperative that the person who is doing the anal entry, should not be forcing their way in. They should go slowly and use lube; if you go slowly, the anus will open up and accept what’s introduced to it. Or else, it can tear and be very painful on the receiving end. Also, communication is key when it comes to anal. The person receiving the anal is in charge of how fast or deep you’re going. Sex doesn’t have to be uncomfortable or unenjoyable and it shouldn’t be! Don’t partake in sexual activities you don’t feel comfortable with. And always speak up! If something is hurting, you don’t have to just take it: Say that it hurts and stop or slow down.
STD risk is just as high as vaginal sex, if not higher, because of small tears in the rectum. Always use barrier protection, unless both partners are tested and exclusive.