Blue balls occur when a guy is about to cum and doesn’t, akin to how women feel when expecting an orgasm that doesn’t arrive. Blue balls actually have little to do with the balls at all. When a penis is about to cum or ejaculate, the genitals fill up with blood. This is what an erection is; when a man is turned on, blood flows into the penis and fills up the tissue. This lifts and erects the penis as it’s full of blood.
When the semen — a fluid mixture of sperm and other fluids produced by the prostate gland– is ejaculated, there is a release of the tension and blood flow. However, if you do not orgasm or ejaculate, the added pressure of the blood flow can stay and cause pain. So, Blue balls is actually vasocongestion.
Men feel vasocongestion the worst in their testicles or balls because it is an area of high blood volume. To relieve it, you can cum by masturbating, use a cold or warm compress, relax, or start to exercise to redirect one’s blood flow.
It’s important to remember that your vasocongestion is your responsibility and no one else’s. No one can give you “blue balls” and therefore, you should never be manipulated into relieving someone else’s unless you want to. More people than you think experience this. They become tired of having sex or engaging in a sexual act, so they want to stop. And then the man says, “don’t blue ball me, I’m about to cum.” It’s critical to remember that no means no, and if you’re not into it, you’re not into it. I thought making you aware of and knowing the facts of what blue balls really is would help empower you to have a healthy sex life with your partner.