You can search for happiness in a million different places. You can search for it in every guy you meet, in every place you travel, in everything you buy. But, ultimately, you will only find it within yourself.
I’m not saying it’s easy to find. Some of us have chemical imbalances, we have worries that affect us that are out of control. Then there are bills to pay, people to impress, school, work, not to mention families that can bring all sorts of stress, as well. Being human is complicated. Not only are we physical beings, but we have emotions and egos. We are made up of a million parts and each and every one of us differs. It can be a lot to wrap your head around.
We come into this life, as little blobs of simplicity, cute and covered in baby fat. And we grow and grow and we shape and expand, we have beliefs, opinions, souls, and then one day, when our time is up, it all comes to an end.
It can be very easy to get wrapped up in what’s wrong with this world. We live in a very toxic society and a world whose resources are getting depleted at an alarming rate. There is a lot of
sadness around us. One of my favorite books The Four Agreements states that we are in Hell. “Religions say that hell is a place of punishment, a place of fear, pain, and suffering, a place where the fire burns you. Whenever we feel the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we experience a fire burning within us. We are living in a dream of hell. If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell is all around us.” (14).
What I’m trying to get at, on a nonÂ-religious tip, is that life is hard. We are conditioned to expect and see life one way when it almost never goes as planned. We are brought up in families knowing full well that our loved ones will pass on. Yet, socially we are never taught how to deal with our emotions. We live in a repressed world. We would rather talk about the Kardashians then how to console a friend who just lost a parent. It is hard to stay happy constantly, with all that is going on around us: To be aware of our surroundings can be depressing, as we live in a negative environment. After all, we’re constantly surrounded by human suffering, whether that be anger, greed, war, addictions, violence, poverty, etc.
I think to be truly happy, you have to realize all this and take it in. Because being happy by ignoring all this stuff will cause you pain later on, or you will live a life that is a tad bit washed out. All humans are constantly searching for the truth, justice, and beauty. And what better way to figure out or, at least, get close to finding those things then going back to your roots. I find happiness in nature: the ocean, the trees, going for hikes.
I find happiness in reading, in listening to music, in taking baths. But we all find happiness in different ways. Happiness is being at peace and finding out how to stay there. And it’s accepting that it shouldn’t always be constant because sadness is just as big of a part of happiness. If you never felt sadness or fear, you wouldn’t be able to appreciate happiness when you are in that state. I’m going to give a list of things that help me stay happy but I’m also going to say that while my life is great at times, at other times it is not. And I have come to accept that as a human, it is perfectly healthy for me not to be happy 24/7 and if anything, that has helped me love myself a lot more.
This isn’t a pity party or a pity blog. It’s just my reaction to the world we live in, and the fact that it’s so hard for us emotional beings to talk about the things that matter most. We all suffer, and with social media, it’s been getting harder and harder to remember that. We are obsessed with giving off the vibe that everything in our life is okay when in reality, most of the time it’s not. That’s normal and okay! Everything you go through makes you stronger. It teaches you lessons that no one will be able to. I go through my waves of being happy, then unhappy. I’ve been through dark times, but you just have to remember that you are not alone. And I know that even in this world of over 7 billion people, sometimes you can feel so alone.
I feel like this blog will change and evolve. So, too, will I, my thoughts, and my opinions. I love to read and with every new book, I learn new ways of thinking. expanding my mind and beliefs. And with every new person I meet, I am shown just how large this world is, and where it can take you!
Some tips I have when you’re feeling down and out:
â—Ź Turn your phone off !!
â—Ź Take a bath
â—Ź Read a book
â—Ź Blast some happy music
â—Ź Go to sleep
â—Ź Go get that ice cream or brownie every once in a while
â—Ź Take a walk outside
â—Ź Go for a bike ride
â—Ź Make lists of things you want to see in this lifetime
â—Ź Draw!
â—Ź Call an old friend and talk about life… real life!