Every week our writers share a bit of themselves with you. Inspired by their vulnerability, we sat some of our core team members down for an intimate interview.
We chatted with Bri Scripture, our in-house graphic designer who generates  visuals for the website, social media, and Killer And A Sweet Thang’s events. She is currently studying design in New York City, and in addition to her 2D work, she’s begun to explore animation and motion graphics.
Where are you from originally?
Bri: Richmond, Virginia.
Do you think your family dynamic growing up has influenced your work in any way?
I think it really informed my relationships now. How I view my future and myself with other people because of growing up with a single mom, and not really having any men around for my most formative years. It being my mom and I, that’s a lot of femme energy. I think definitely not having to answer to any men and not having a father figure, that has changed the way that I act and things that I care about. I think that I probably have daddy issues, which is a recent development.
I mean, it’s part of growing up where you’re just like, ‘I have baggage!’
You know how people always make fun of daddy issues? And I’m like, Oh wait though…Â
How did you get involved in KAAST?
Through social media, which really speaks to how KAAST works. I’d been following both @birds.bees and Eileen and there was a post about needing help and I’d always been interested in this type of work so I thought, why not?
Can you tell the readers a little bit about what you do for Killer And A Sweet Thang?
I feel like it started out as just finding content, but as it turns out there was a space for me to be doing design, which is my biggest passion, and being able to use my design for the causes that I care about. This is such a small team so we all have to play a bigger role, but mainly I do graphic design.
What’s your favorite part about graphic design?
I think my favorite part is when I’m on the computer and—this is a blessing and a curse—you can do anything that you want. You have all these tools.Â
Now some fun stuff. Do you prefer dating apps or IRL?
In real life.
Handjob or oral?
Oral.
Sub or dom?
Sub.
Sex on the first date?
It depends, but I’m in favor.
What turns you on?
Big dick energy, humor.
How would you define big dick energy?
I would say big dick energy is just like confidence in who you are. [BDE] can manifest itself in many different ways, and it’s ok if you don’t have it, I don’t have it. I don’t have big dick energy. It’s fine. I took a quiz and it told me I didn’t, so.
What! Where is the quiz?
I was a zero percent on Buzzfeed.
No, you did not get zero percent?
I got a whole zero.Â
What turns you off?
Someone that’s super conservative. When we don’t vibe, if I don’t feel comfortable around you—that’s a turnoff for me.Â
Have you ever been ghosted or ghosted someone?
Yes, it’s a bad habit.
Which way?
Me ghosting somebody.
Why did you ghost somebody?
Sometimes I’m just really bad at confrontation, for whatever reason, and then I feel so guilty that I just have to run away.
Have you ever been ghosted?
Yes, but then I always receive clarity at some point. I seek out clarification of the ghosting.
Do you like dirty talk?
Yeah. I think it’s necessary, for me.
Do you send nudes?
Circumstantially.
What a concise answer. Do you have any advice on taking them?
I think what’s most important is not forcing it. If you’re feeling sensual, if you’re feeling yourself, that’s the perfect time. But if you’re not feeling good about yourself that day—and that’s totally fine—then maybe it’s not the day for it. But I think feeling comfortable, feeling good, working your angles. Just get that shot, ya know?
What’s the worst thing a former partner has said to you?
The thing that probably hurt the most was being told that I was a different and changed person in a bad way.
And how did you respond to that?
I felt more like that was his problem. In retrospect, maybe I was kind of being someone that wasn’t true to myself, but that wasn’t necessarily his place to say that about me. I was like, whatever you’re thinking, that’s just what you’re deflecting onto me. I just think you don’t like the person I am now.
Do you find it hard to connect to people in the digital age?
Yeah. It feels like so often it’s the source of all our confusion. So much is based on if somebody texted you back and how they texted you back. This whole digital thing, it’s like we’ve got two versions of life. I think it complicates things, especially with relationships and dating.
How do you deal with rejection?
I do not take it well at all. I have this whole thing, and I’m trying to work on this, where I’m like, who would reject me? What’s wrong with me? So I have this new perspective that how people feel about you sometimes has nothing to do with you. It’s just their perspective that they’ve placed on you. So I try to let go.
Do you have any advice on letting go?Â
Sometimes you just have to continue telling yourself to get over it until it happens. With social media—unfollowing, muting, whatever you need to do—because the little reminders can make it so much worse. Just accepting the rejection over and over. Like it’s fine, that’s what that person thinks, and there’s nothing I can do about that.
Have you ever lied to get out of a sexual situation?
Yes, countless.
Can you give us one of the lies you’ve used?
I feel like they’re all pretty regular, like sometimes I’m like, “Oh I started cooking before I left, so I need to go finish my noodles.” I’ve said that before.
Really? Like you’ve insinuated that you’ve left on the boiler?
I guess that’s what I was saying. I was like, “Oh, I started cooking,” and I was nearby so it maybe made sense.
Why do you think you felt the need to lie?
Sometimes it’s a pure defense thing. You feel [as though] this person is not going to let off unless you have a real reason. Sometimes it’s hard to be assertive, or you want to turn them down now but you want them to know you’re still open to it in the future. I think often it’s just me having a hard time articulating how I feel.
Would you say you’re a good kisser?
Honestly, I don’t even know. Sometimes I feel like I’m killing it and sometimes I’m like, Oh, no.Â
What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done in bed? And you can plead the fifth if you want to.
I’m pleading the fifth.
Have you ever been in love?
I think so.
Have you ever been heartbroken?
Yes.
How did you get over it?
Honestly, I feel like, do we ever get over heartbreak? I don’t know if we ever do.
So there’s some people out there you’re still thinking about?
Yeah. I never have a linear healing process. It’s always all over the place. Some days I feel like I’m good, and then some days I’m like, Oh no, this is totally repressed and I need to handle it.
Do you have any advice for young people navigating dating and sex in 2018?
My biggest thing is to follow your gut instinct, be as transparent as possible, and to always put yourself first. And don’t ever question your value and your worth at the hands of someone else. Â